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Dec 23

What’s the Difference Between Physical and Legal Custody?

Understanding How the Different Custody Types Work

If you are one of the 13.4 million families where the parents do not live together, it is important to have a clear custody arrangement. The right agreement ensures your child has the care they need. When discussing custody arrangements, it is important to keep in mind that physical and legal custody are actually two very different things.

What Is Physical Custody?

Physical custody is about who the child actually lives with. If a parent has physical custody, they have the right to have their child live with them at least some of the time. Physical custody can be divided in any manner of ways. Some parents split physical custody 50/50 while others may just have custody on weekends or at holidays. It is also possible for one parent to have sole physical custody. In these cases, the child lives entirely with one parent. However, the parent without physical custody may still have parenting time rights with their child.

What Is Legal Custody?

When talking to your divorce lawyer about custody, keep in mind that legal custody also exists. This is a type of custody that lets you have input in your child’s upbringings. Legal custody allows you to make decisions about things like:

  • Where your child goes to school
  • What medical care your child receives
  • What religion your child learns about
  • Whether your child goes to therapy

Legal custody is typically shared 50/50 or awarded to just one parent. However, in some cases of joint legal custody, a judge may decide one parent is the “tie breaker” who gets to make the decision when both parties do not agree. Typically, the tie-breaking parent is the one who is the main caregiver of the child.

Which Type of Custody Should You Seek?

Now that you know a bit about legal vs. physical custody, it’s helpful to learn a little about how these forms of custody are awarded in a divorce or separation. Who gets custody is determined based on the best interest of the child. When both parents are responsible, loving parents, the court usually prefers that both legal and physical custody are split. However, any separation can get complicated, so sharing physical and legal custody is not always an option.

Most parents instinctively want to seek sole physical custody because they want to spend as much time with their children as they can. Sole physical custody can provide a child with more stability and ensure they remain with their primary caregiver. It is often a good idea if the other parent is too busy for child care or does not adequately meet a child’s needs. However, joint custody can also be a good idea. If you and your co-parent both have good relationships with your child, spending time with both parents can meet your child’s emotional and social needs.

In most cases, courts prefer to maintain joint legal custody whenever possible. This allows both parents the opportunity to participate in their child’s upbringing. However, you will need sole legal custody if the other parent is abusive. It might also be a good idea to try for sole legal custody if the other parent is neglectful or does not spend time in the child’s day-to-day life. In some cases, legal custody is a matter of convenience. If a parent lives far away and does not communicate promptly, you might need sole custody to ensure your child’s needs are met promptly.

Finding your ideal division of physical and legal custody can take some time. Since the subject is so complex, it’s a good idea to get help from an experienced divorce lawyer. The Law Office of Joanne Kleiner has been assisting families in Montgomery, Bucks, and Philadelphia counties for over 25 years. We can mediate for an amicable separation, or our team is happy to fight for you in a contested custody case. Email us or call (215) 886-1266 in Jenkintown to set up your consultation.

Dec 19

Is It Worth It to Fight for the Family Home?

What to Do With the Family Home in a Divorce

Pennsylvania homes have appreciated by nearly 4% in the past year, creating some tough decisions for divorcing couples. Specifically, people are faced with the choice to fight for the family home or leave it. Generally, you have three options: try to fight to keep the home; let your ex-spouse stay, and be paid for your share; or sell the home, and divide the proceeds.

Will the Court Allow You to Stay?

The first thing to think about is whether the court will actually allow a person to stay in the home. Usually, a judge will want to ensure that there is as little upheaval as possible for the children. If they are accustomed to living in the home, the court will not want to make them move. That would not be in the best interests of the children. Accordingly, the parent who has physical custody of the children will have the best chance of keeping the family home.

Can You Afford It?

Moreover, both ex-spouses need to think very hard about whether they can afford the family home on their own after the divorce is final. There is a major difference between affording the mortgage on one income rather than two. It may still be a stretch even if you are receiving child support. The last thing that you would want is to become “house poor,” spending a majority of your income on housing with little to spare for anything else. These days, the ability to refinance your home at a lower interest rate could help with being able to afford the home.

When you are getting divorced, you are also balancing your short-term financial needs and your long-term plan. Things like retirement planning often take a short-term break while you get your financial feet under you after the divorce. However, you should factor in things like whether and when you will be able to retire. If keeping the home comes at the expense of your financial future, you should think hard about whether it is what you want.

Decisions About the Home Can Get Contentious

In addition, fighting to keep the family home would necessarily involve the word “fight.” This means that your divorce can end up in a hostile place. If you have children and need to co-parent, this could pose a long-term complication to a relationship that you need to preserve. While this is not to say that you should automatically surrender to what your ex-spouse wants in the name of harmony, you should recognize that it will come at a cost.

Finally, you need to weigh the factors of wanting to maintain continuity versus being better off with a fresh start. Some people may benefit from moving somewhere else, especially if staying in the same place will consume them with unpleasant memories. However, others may want to stay where they are because there would be too many changes for them to process.

In your particular case, you need to decide what is best for your specific situation. The one unchanging factor is that you need to be honest with yourself and realistic, both in terms of what you can afford and whether you can agree with your ex-spouse. You have multiple options that you need to consider while working together with your divorce attorney. Deciding to fight to keep the house can be stressful if that is your preferred course of action.

Although it may require some maneuvering, there is a way that both individuals can keep the home together, even after the divorce, in a collaborative manner. Before you decide on one course of action, consult with your divorce lawyer about the strength of your claim and whether there are any other possible solutions. Keeping or giving up the home may not necessarily be an either/or proposition.

To learn more about this and other issues affecting your legal case, contact a Jenkintown, PA, divorce lawyer at the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner at (215) 886-1266.