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May 08

Why You Should Try Divorce Mediation

Explore the Benefits of Divorce Mediation

Since it has a high success rate, mediation is one of the most effective forms of handling a divorce. Why does mediation work so well? More and more couples are choosing this process because it provides several benefits.

The Whole Process Is Faster

If you just want your divorce to be over with, mediation is the way to go. One of the big benefits of mediation is that it’s far quicker than going through the courts. When your case is decided in front of a judge, you must wait months for your court date. Depending on your situation, you may have to wait weeks while you file paperwork and send documentation back and forth. Mediation is a lot more straightforward. You schedule your meetings, attend each session for an hour or two, and then go on your way. In most cases, mediation is completed in four to 10 weeks.

You Have Less Stress

Of course, a good divorce lawyer will manage a lot of the difficult parts of the process for you, but it’s still stressful to have to go to court and argue your case in front of a judge. Since mediation is more cooperative, it has an entirely different tone. You don’t have to feel like the law is getting involved, and you don’t have to feel like you’re having a confrontation. Instead, it’s simply you and your estranged spouse sitting down with a few helpful advisors while you figure things out.

Your Discussions Are Confidential

Court proceedings typically become a matter of public record. If you have a contentious divorce, all your dirty laundry gets aired to the public. Anyone who is interested can pull court documents and learn about your relationship and your finances. If this sounds too awkward for you, you should try mediation. Mediation is a private matter. If desired, you can even negotiate nondisclosure agreements to further safeguard your privacy.

Your Children Are Less Affected

If you have children, mediation is especially helpful. By working with the other parent, you maintain a more positive relationship with your co-parent. Mediation reduces the chances of an acrimonious divorce that can lead to years of disagreements with your child’s other parent. It also keeps your kids from being involved. They don’t have to testify in court and feel like they’re getting dragged into your disagreements with their other parent.

It’s More Affordable

If you’re worried about losing money in a divorce, mediation is a good option. Divorce mediation costs are usually around 40% to 60% lower than traditional divorce costs. Part of this is due to the simplicity of mediation. You don’t have to hire a divorce lawyer to carefully prepare court arguments and spend hours negotiating with your ex’s divorce attorney. Mediation is also more affordable because it’s over faster and has fewer court filing fees associated with it.

You Have More Control

If you decide to take your estranged spouse to court for a divorce, you end up relying on the judge’s discretion. The court will decide what it deems fair and make a ruling you’re legally bound to follow. This can lead to problems like your spouse ending up with the house you renovated or you obtaining one of your spouse’s family heirlooms. If you want to avoid these issues, mediation is a good idea. You’re entirely in control, so you get to decide how your assets should be divided. You can also make more flexible arrangements regarding issues like pet custody or reduced child support.

Mediation is definitely simpler and less contentious, but it’s still a good idea to have a knowledgeable lawyer on your side. At the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner, we can help guide you through the mediation process. Our Jenkintown team is here to handle the paperwork, collect evidence for you and represent your side of the story. We can oversee everything from child custody to alimony. To learn more about our services, call (215) 886-1266, or fill out our contact form.

May 04

How Do Traditional Court Divorces Differ From Collaborative Divorce?

How Do Collaborative and Traditional Divorce Differ?

It’s never an easy decision to seek a divorce. However, there are different options available for couples who find that they can no longer salvage their marriages. Traditional court divorce and collaborative divorce are among them, but it’s helpful to know the differences between them.

What Is Traditional Divorce?

With a traditional divorce, one spouse files for divorce against the other while the other spouse may not want the divorce at all. This often leads to court proceedings. When there is a lot of animosity between the parties, it can lead to an emotional, long, drawn-out situation that’s uncomfortable. This is especially the case if the marriage involves children.

After one spouse files for divorce, the other is served the papers and is required to answer. The reason for the divorce that is usually specified by the plaintiff in a no-fault divorce is that the marriage has irretrievably broken down, although there are a number of “fault” grounds such as adultery if that is the path that is taken.

A traditional divorce involves disputes over many different matters within the marriage. It’s common for couples to disagree on issues like property division, spousal support or alimony, child custody and child support.

In traditional divorce proceedings, each spouse will likely want to have a divorce lawyer to represent them. The attorneys work hard to help the parties through the most important matters they cannot agree on. A judge makes the final decision on how property is distributed through the state’s equitable distribution laws. This means that all marital property and assets are divided fairly but not necessarily equally.

What Is Collaborative Divorce?

Collaborative divorce is an alternative option for ending your marriage. If the couple has an amicable split, collaborative divorce can work as it allows them to work together with their respective family law attorneys to decide on all the pressing issues within the marriage. While working together, you can ultimately come to a settlement that works for you and your spouse.

Negotiation is the key to a collaborative divorce proceeding. The spouses and their respective lawyers have periodic meetings until they are able to reach an agreement and a settlement. However, with collaborative divorce, if you aren’t able to settle all matters and you proceed to litigation, your attorneys are required to withdraw from the case, you each will have to hire a new divorce lawyer, and your case ends up going to court.

How Do These Two Options Differ?

Traditional court divorces and collaborative divorce are considerably different. Collaborative divorce can only occur when a married couple is open to working together to settle things. It’s a better option for getting a divorce faster and is better as a whole for your family. It’s called “collaborative” because of the way that both parties work together.

Collaborative divorce is often confused with divorce mediation. While both give couples the option of working together to settle their divorce, collaborative divorce does not involve a neutral third party to help the parties reach an agreement. Legal advice comes from the attorneys, which is something this method shares in common with traditional divorce. Other professionals might also be brought in to assist in helping the parties reach an agreement on specific matters. These professionals have expertise in areas of concern within the marriage such as a financial advisor or child psychologist.

With a traditional divorce, it’s common for the spouses to argue and have heated battles on issues. Collaborative divorce allows for the free exchange of information while agreeing to work together to settle things. It is also generally a less-costly process than a traditional court divorce.

Is Collaborative Divorce Right for You?

Collaborative divorce might be right for you if you and your spouse are willing to work together to negotiate all the terms of the end of your marriage. If you want a process that’s faster, private and confidential and that protects your children, you can benefit from this alternative method. Collaborative divorce allows you and your spouse to both take control over the eventual outcome and settlement.

If you live in or near Jenkintown, Pennsylvania, and are interested in learning more about the collaborative divorce process, give the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner a call at (215) 886-1266. You can also contact us online, and we’re happy to set up an appointment for you.

Apr 08

Preparing for Divorce as a Non-working Spouse

How to Approach Divorce if You Are a Non-working Spouse

Divorce can be a lengthy and costly process, and it comes with financial and emotional consequences. For non-working spouses, who often have devoted years to being homemakers, it can be scary as well, as the uncertainties that they face can seem overwhelming. However, they do have options that they should consider as they prepare and begin planning for life post-divorce.

Getting Back on Your Feet Can Take Time

When a marriage ends, you might feel like you want to rush into your new life and forget the past, but the divorce process takes time, and you will need the patience to go through it. The decisions that you make during this period might affect you for years to come, so make sure that you prepare well for it.

You will also need to begin preparing for your life post-divorce, and if you were the non-working spouse, you might worry about how to do this. If you have been out of the workforce for a long time, you might think you need to take the first job you can. However, during and after the divorce itself, you might also look at training and education options that will help you with your employment opportunities. This will take time, but it might result in a better paying and more satisfying job in the long run.

Preparing for the Divorce Negotiations

During this time, you might benefit from seeking guidance from a divorce lawyer, who can help you prepare for the negotiations over your settlement. At thi8s time, you will need to gather financial documents to get a clear picture of the type of settlement that will be just. Some of the documents you might gather include:

Bank statements for your savings, investment and checking accounts
Credit card statements
Vehicle titles and loan statements
Property titles and mortgage information
Retirement accounts, pension plans and insurance statements

Financial Options for Non-working Spouses During Divorce

You might still be worried about how you will support yourself as you acquire new skills, and this might make you afraid of the future. However, you do have financial options available to you that will help you get back on your feet financially, such as benefits from your divorce settlement, alimony or spousal support and child support.

While alimony payments might eventually run out and child support is used to cover the needs of your child, your settlement might also yield benefits that can help you as you transition back into the workforce. A divorce lawyer might help you understand your financial options.

Making the Tough Decisions

Divorce is also a time when you will have to make tough decisions that will impact you and your family. One of these might be whether to keep the family home or not. For example, for a non-working spouse, it might not be financially feasible to keep the house, so the decision might have to be to give it up during the settlement negotiations or to sell it and receive your part of the proceeds. You need to be prepared to make these tough decisions as you move forward with your life.

Dealing With the Emotional Impact

Like any other major change, divorce comes with an emotional impact. You might experience fear about what is coming and anger about what is ending. You will have periods of anxiety for the future while also being excited about leaving a bad situation. You will grieve for the relationship, the family and the life plan that you have to let go of to begin life after divorce. To deal with this impact, you might gather a support team made up of family members and friends who let you speak and listen to you, and you might seek professional support through therapists or psychologists.

Let the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner Help You

If you are considering divorce, you can contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner to request a consultation. Call 215-886-1266 or submit our online form today.

Apr 04

How to Handle Your Spouse’s Refusal of Divorce Mediation

Motivating Your Spouse to Agree to Divorce Mediation

Many divorce lawyers advise divorce mediation over the alternatives. Mediation results in an agreement in as many as 80% of all U.S. divorces that go through the process. Mediated divorces are finalized in three to six months on average compared to the two-year average span for litigated divorces, which can cost up to 10 times as much overall.

Identify the Reasons for the Refusal

It can be difficult, but strive to see the refusal through the eyes of your spouse. The most common reason a person refuses mediation is because they do not want to get divorced. If this is your situation, then you may not be ready for mediation and should seek marriage counseling instead.

Recognize That an Angry Spouse May Be a Deal-Breaker

If your spouse is hurt, there may be nothing you can do to change their mind. You can hope that counseling will work, but if you are beyond that point, you may have to shift focus. Also, many divorce lawyers agree that situations involving domestic violence cannot be mediated.

Manage Your Stress and Be Patient

If you move forward with counseling, it is advisable that together you choose someone who is a pro-marriage therapist who will advocate for your marriage. You should also approach this process with an open mind. It is also important that you manage your stress, and be patient. Your spouse likely will come to the table eventually, and it will still be on a shorter timetable than a litigated divorce would require.

Educate Your Spouse on Divorce Mediation

Many people do not know what mediation is. It may be human nature to see divorce as winning and losing. Truth is, there are no winners in a divorce, and mediation concerns mitigating the losses.

The Initial Process

In Pennsylvania, estranged couples can make the initial choice to go through mediation before any divorce paperwork is filed with the court. However, in the converse situation, judges will in many cases order that mediation take place, especially if there are child custody issues involved.

Offer to Pay for the First Mediation Session

You may be able to use that fact to motivate your spouse to go voluntarily. You may also want to offer to pay for the first session. A single mediation session is relatively inexpensive, and it allows your spouse the experience without any sense that they may be taken advantage of.

Recommend Your Spouse Retain an Attorney

Just because you decided to pursue mediation or if it has been ordered by the court does not mean that either of you have to go it alone. You are each entitled to have the assistance of separate family law attorneys to represent your respective interests and, if an agreement is reached, review its terms before it is signed and presented to the court.

Continue the Decoupling Process

Unless counseling has led to a change of heart for you, in which case this is all moot, it is important that you continue the process of decoupling yourself from the marriage. This process, which should be gentle and purposeful, is important on two fronts. It is important for your mental health and preparation for single life, and you may even want to attend individual counseling as this process unfolds. It is also important for your spouse so that they acclimate to the fact the marriage is coming to an end.

Mediate a Successful Divorce

If you are ready to move on from your Pennsylvania marriage but want to do so without bitterness and acrimony, divorce mediation is an excellent way to achieve that. At the Law Office of Joanne E. Kleiner, we have more than 25 years of experience helping couples mediate their divorces and would welcome the opportunity to assist you. Call our office in Jenkintown at 215-886-1266 or contact us online to schedule a consultation with an experienced divorce attorney.

Mar 07

The Key Differences Between Separate and Marital Property

How to Classify an Asset for Property Division Purposes

You may believe that you are at risk of losing half your belongings if you leave your spouse. However, this isn’t necessarily the case. Instead, you generally only risk losing a portion of the assets held inside of the marital estate.

What Is the Marital Estate?

Generally speaking, any assets that are acquired during a marriage are considered to be part of the marital estate. This may be true even if only one person’s name is on the deed or title to the asset. For instance, if you buy a home with your spouse, you generally have an ownership interest in that home even if it is held in your spouse’s name.

It’s also worth noting that price appreciation that occurs in a separate asset after marriage becomes official may be part of the marital estate. For instance, let’s say that you own a home that is worth $100,000 on the date of your wedding. Let’s also say that the home is worth $200,000 when your divorce becomes official.

Your spouse will likely be entitled to a portion of the $100,000 in price appreciation that took place while you were married to them. It’s worth noting that they would be responsible for paying capital gains taxes on any profits that they received from selling a joint asset obtained in a divorce settlement.

What Is Commingling?

Commingling can occur in several different ways. For example, if your spouse deposits money into your personal bank account, that asset may now be considered joint property. The same may be true if your spouse used their money to make repairs to your home, car or other property. Separate assets may become joint assets because you failed to keep accurate records of when they were acquired and who paid to obtain or maintain them.

Tips for Retaining Control of Property After Getting Married

The use of a prenuptial agreement may make it easier to exempt property from being distributed to your spouse in a divorce settlement. Such an agreement may stipulate that your business, home or other property is to be classified as separate property. A divorce lawyer may be able to help you draft a prenuptial agreement that is likely to hold up under scrutiny.

If you aren’t able to create such a contract before your wedding takes place, you can draft a postnuptial agreement after your marriage becomes official. Regardless of when this type of agreement is executed, it’s important to allow your spouse to review it with their own attorney. This may help to ensure that the document won’t be invalidated based on a claim that it was signed under duress.

Putting assets into a trust may also be an effective way to retain control of them after a divorce. In most cases, property held in a trust is considered to be kept outside of the marital estate. Of course, your spouse may challenge the validity of the trust, and it’s possible that a judge will nullify it in the event that the document is not structured properly.

Certain Assets Won’t Automatically Become Part of the Marital Estate

If you received an inheritance while you were married, it remains a part of your separate estate. The same is true of anything that you received as a gift from your spouse, a friend or a family member. Of course, these items can become joint property if they are commingled, which is why it may be best to keep them in a separate account or place them in a trust.

If you need the assistance of a divorce lawyer, you’re encouraged to contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner at your earliest convenience. You can call our Jenkintown office by dialing (215) 886-1266, or you can fill out and submit the contact form located on our website.