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Archives for April 2022

Apr 08

Preparing for Divorce as a Non-working Spouse

How to Approach Divorce if You Are a Non-working Spouse

Divorce can be a lengthy and costly process, and it comes with financial and emotional consequences. For non-working spouses, who often have devoted years to being homemakers, it can be scary as well, as the uncertainties that they face can seem overwhelming. However, they do have options that they should consider as they prepare and begin planning for life post-divorce.

Getting Back on Your Feet Can Take Time

When a marriage ends, you might feel like you want to rush into your new life and forget the past, but the divorce process takes time, and you will need the patience to go through it. The decisions that you make during this period might affect you for years to come, so make sure that you prepare well for it.

You will also need to begin preparing for your life post-divorce, and if you were the non-working spouse, you might worry about how to do this. If you have been out of the workforce for a long time, you might think you need to take the first job you can. However, during and after the divorce itself, you might also look at training and education options that will help you with your employment opportunities. This will take time, but it might result in a better paying and more satisfying job in the long run.

Preparing for the Divorce Negotiations

During this time, you might benefit from seeking guidance from a divorce lawyer, who can help you prepare for the negotiations over your settlement. At thi8s time, you will need to gather financial documents to get a clear picture of the type of settlement that will be just. Some of the documents you might gather include:

  • Bank statements for your savings, investment and checking accounts
  • Credit card statements
  • Vehicle titles and loan statements
  • Property titles and mortgage information
  • Retirement accounts, pension plans and insurance statements

Financial Options for Non-working Spouses During Divorce

You might still be worried about how you will support yourself as you acquire new skills, and this might make you afraid of the future. However, you do have financial options available to you that will help you get back on your feet financially, such as benefits from your divorce settlement, alimony or spousal support and child support.

While alimony payments might eventually run out and child support is used to cover the needs of your child, your settlement might also yield benefits that can help you as you transition back into the workforce. A divorce lawyer might help you understand your financial options.

Making the Tough Decisions

Divorce is also a time when you will have to make tough decisions that will impact you and your family. One of these might be whether to keep the family home or not. For example, for a non-working spouse, it might not be financially feasible to keep the house, so the decision might have to be to give it up during the settlement negotiations or to sell it and receive your part of the proceeds. You need to be prepared to make these tough decisions as you move forward with your life.

Dealing With the Emotional Impact

Like any other major change, divorce comes with an emotional impact. You might experience fear about what is coming and anger about what is ending. You will have periods of anxiety for the future while also being excited about leaving a bad situation. You will grieve for the relationship, the family and the life plan that you have to let go of to begin life after divorce. To deal with this impact, you might gather a support team made up of family members and friends who let you speak and listen to you, and you might seek professional support through therapists or psychologists.

Let the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner Help You

If you are considering divorce, you can contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner to request a consultation. Call 215-886-1266 or submit our online form today.

Apr 04

How to Handle Your Spouse’s Refusal of Divorce Mediation

Motivating Your Spouse to Agree to Divorce Mediation

Many divorce lawyers advise divorce mediation over the alternatives. Mediation results in an agreement in as many as 80% of all U.S. divorces that go through the process. Mediated divorces are finalized in three to six months on average compared to the two-year average span for litigated divorces, which can cost up to 10 times as much overall.

Identify the Reasons for the Refusal

It can be difficult, but strive to see the refusal through the eyes of your spouse. The most common reason a person refuses mediation is because they do not want to get divorced. If this is your situation, then you may not be ready for mediation and should seek marriage counseling instead.

Recognize That an Angry Spouse May Be a Deal-Breaker

If your spouse is hurt, there may be nothing you can do to change their mind. You can hope that counseling will work, but if you are beyond that point, you may have to shift focus. Also, many divorce lawyers agree that situations involving domestic violence cannot be mediated.

Manage Your Stress and Be Patient

If you move forward with counseling, it is advisable that together you choose someone who is a pro-marriage therapist who will advocate for your marriage. You should also approach this process with an open mind. It is also important that you manage your stress, and be patient. Your spouse likely will come to the table eventually, and it will still be on a shorter timetable than a litigated divorce would require.

Educate Your Spouse on Divorce Mediation

Many people do not know what mediation is. It may be human nature to see divorce as winning and losing. Truth is, there are no winners in a divorce, and mediation concerns mitigating the losses.

The Initial Process

In Pennsylvania, estranged couples can make the initial choice to go through mediation before any divorce paperwork is filed with the court. However, in the converse situation, judges will in many cases order that mediation take place, especially if there are child custody issues involved.

Offer to Pay for the First Mediation Session

You may be able to use that fact to motivate your spouse to go voluntarily. You may also want to offer to pay for the first session. A single mediation session is relatively inexpensive, and it allows your spouse the experience without any sense that they may be taken advantage of.

Recommend Your Spouse Retain an Attorney

Just because you decided to pursue mediation or if it has been ordered by the court does not mean that either of you have to go it alone. You are each entitled to have the assistance of separate family law attorneys to represent your respective interests and, if an agreement is reached, review its terms before it is signed and presented to the court.

Continue the Decoupling Process

Unless counseling has led to a change of heart for you, in which case this is all moot, it is important that you continue the process of decoupling yourself from the marriage. This process, which should be gentle and purposeful, is important on two fronts. It is important for your mental health and preparation for single life, and you may even want to attend individual counseling as this process unfolds. It is also important for your spouse so that they acclimate to the fact the marriage is coming to an end.

Mediate a Successful Divorce

If you are ready to move on from your Pennsylvania marriage but want to do so without bitterness and acrimony, divorce mediation is an excellent way to achieve that. At the Law Office of Joanne E. Kleiner, we have more than 25 years of experience helping couples mediate their divorces and would welcome the opportunity to assist you. Call our office in Jenkintown at 215-886-1266 or contact us online to schedule a consultation with an experienced divorce attorney.