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Feb 15, 2023

The effect of a gray divorce on your older children

How Does Gray Divorce Affect Adult Children?

A “gray divorce,” also known as a “silver split” or “late-life divorce,” is a term used to describe when couples who are at or over 50 years old end their marriage. While this type of split was once a rare occurrence, it has become increasingly common over the last few decades. Consequently, the number of adult children whose parents are getting divorced is also increasing.

The effects of divorce on young children are well-known, but few consider the effects of a gray divorce on older children. Although adult children may not experience the same level of distress as younger children, divorce lawyers know from experience that children can still be negatively impacted by their parents’ separation long after they’ve become adults.

It Can Alter Their Views of the Past

Many adult children of gray divorces look back on their childhood and adolescence in a new light. While they may have previously believed their family was a happy one, the news of the divorce can cause them to re-evaluate their memories. Any positive memories of their family may become clouded with uncertainty and regret.

To help adult children with this, parents should try to preserve good memories. Go through old photos and videos together and reminisce about the good times. It can be comforting for adult children to know that their parents were once happy, even if things didn’t work out in the end.

They Might Feel Blindsided

Because adult children of gray divorce are often out of the house and don’t experience the same level of direct contact with their parents’ divorce proceedings, they may feel as though they have been excluded from an important part of their familial narrative. Feelings of anger may arise if they weren’t informed earlier or included in the decision-making process.

If possible, parents should talk with their adult children early on in the divorce proceedings. Explain the reasons for the split and allow them to provide input. They might not be able to change the outcome, but encouraging them to share their thoughts can help them feel heard and respected.

Relationship Anxiety May Increase

Adult children of gray divorces may also be more likely to develop commitment issues. Many are already married when their parents get divorced, and their feelings about their own marriage can be tainted by the news. They may have entered their marriage with their parents’ marriage as a model, and the news of their parents’ divorce can cause them to doubt their own relationship.

Parents can help their adult children cope with this feeling of relationship anxiety by reassuring them that all relationships are different. The divorce can serve as an example of what not to do and be a conversation starter on how to create a healthy, lasting marriage.

They May Have Financial Concerns

Gray divorces often come with a host of financial complexities as they may have amassed more assets throughout their marriage than younger couples. This can create a great deal of stress for adult children as they may feel an obligation to step in and help their parents financially.

Adult children may also worry about logistical issues such as wills, estates, and trusts. Parents should try to alleviate any money worries their children might have by showing them their financial plans and walking them through what will happen to their assets in the event of death or incapacitation after the divorce is finalized.

Overall, adult children are likely to approach their parents’ split differently than younger children. Understanding the unique factors that come with adult children of gray divorce can help parents best support their adult children during and after the process.

If you’re going through a gray divorce, reach out to your adult children and start the conversation; they may surprise you with their resilience and understanding. Then, contact a Pennsylvania divorce lawyer for reliable legal advice and support. With a trusted legal partner on your side, you can leave the details of your divorce to the professionals and focus on healing with your family. Call the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner at (215) 886-1266 to schedule a consultation today.

Feb 11

Some tax matters associated with divorce

Common Changes to Filing Taxes Following a Divorce

Numerous issues related to your divorce can alter the amount of taxes you pay each year. There were 630,000 divorces in 2020, most of which resulted in both spouses needing to make changes to the way they file taxes. While alimony payments and child custody arrangements must be considered, some tax breaks might be available.

How Your Filing Status Changes

The marital status you have on December 31 determines what your tax filing status will be for that tax year. If the divorce hasn’t been finalized by the end of the year, a joint return can still be filed, saving you money when you file your return. You could also file with the “married but filing separately” status.

If you haven’t lived with your spouse for the final six months of the tax year, are filing separate returns, have paid over half of the home’s upkeep, and have had a dependent living in your home for over half of the year, you could file as head of the household, which allows for a larger standard deduction. In addition, after your divorce has been finalized, you could file as a single taxpayer or as head of household.

Alimony Payments

You might deduct your alimony payments if a divorce agreement was finalized before January 1, 2019. However, the spouse who receives these payments must include them as taxable income. As a result of the changes to the Internal Revenue Code contained in the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017, alimony can’t be deducted if the marriage was finalized on or after that date.

Child Tax Credits and Medical Expenses

The child tax credit can only be claimed by the custodial parent, the parent that the kids live with for most of the year. So when filing your 2022 taxes, the child tax credit amounts to $2,000 for every child who is 16 years old or younger.

If you have children older than 16, they may qualify for a dependent tax credit, which amounts to as much as $500 for every qualifying child. The noncustodial parent could claim this credit if the custodial parent doesn’t want to.

However, the custodial parent must sign a waiver stating they won’t claim the exemption. IRS Form 8332 is the one that the custodial parent must sign. It must also be submitted with the noncustodial parent’s tax return each year.

If you’re paying your child’s medical bills following a divorce, these costs can be included as medical expense deductions. This credit is available even when your ex-spouse has custody of your child. Medical expenses are considered deductible only if they exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income. Any other bills paid for the child can push costs over this threshold.

How Home Sales are Impacted

If you and your spouse have decided to sell your home, the date the sale takes place dictates what happens with your taxes. In most cases, the Internal Revenue Code allows individuals to avoid paying taxes on the initial $250,000 of profits following the sale of a home if the home has been owned and lived in for at least two out of the previous five years.

A married couple filing jointly can obtain an exclusion of as much as $500,000. In addition, a spouse can exclude $250,000 in gains on individual returns if the sale takes place after the divorce. However, if the two out of five-year test hasn’t been met, the exclusion is lowered and depends on how much time you spend at home.

If you have lived in the home for just one of the two previous years, $125,000 of gain can be excluded. If you’re about to seek a divorce and want to know how your tax situation will change, contact our New Jersey divorce lawyer.

Can You Deduct Your Legal Fees When Filing Taxes?

It’s usually impossible to deduct legal expenses after filing for a divorce. These expenses include everything from litigation to tax advice. Any payments could be subject to a gift tax if no legal responsibility has arisen due to the divorce settlement.

When you are considering filing for a divorce and want to make sure that you understand every facet of what this process entails, call our divorce lawyers today at (215) 886-1266 to schedule an appointment.