• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to footer
  • 215-886-1266

Law Office of Joanne Kleiner

  • Home
  • Attorney Profile
  • We Can Help
  • Family Law & Divorce
    • Collaborative Law
    • Contested Divorce
    • Equitable Distribution of Property
    • High Asset / Net Worth Divorce
    • Mediation
    • Property Settlement Agreements
    • Spousal Support
  • Client Reviews
  • Blog
  • Contact
  • Search

collaborative law

Nov 04

Planning for collaborative divorce sessions

What You Need To Know About the Collaborative Divorce Process

In the United States, the typical duration of a marriage that ends in a divorce is just eight years. Many people have heard horror stories about long, stressful divorce processes that end up with the airing of dirty laundry and much frustration in court, but working with a collaborative divorce lawyer could reduce the level of stress and the amount of time that it takes to end a marriage. Before you choose a collaborative divorce attorney, here are some questions to ask.

Will You Consider What my Spouse Wants in the Divorce Settlement?

This type of question gets to the heart of collaboration versus cooperation. A collaborative process ensures that the other person’s goals are met, even when those goals don’t match yours. Collaboration is more difficult than cooperation. It’s about mutual benefits and common goals. By the end of a marriage, many couples have few goals in common. However, some common goals might include ensuring what’s best for any minor children or protecting meaningful assets, such as the family home. A collaborative process requires both parties to respect each other’s goals and concerns and to understand that no agreement will be reached until both spouses meet their personal goals.

Can Divorcing Spouses Really Collaborate on the End of Their Marriage?

An attorney who has experience in collaborative law understands the differences between positions and interests. Positions relate to insisting on a specific result. Some would call this “a line in the sand.” Interests involve keeping an open mind about different options that meet one’s needs. Collaborative attorneys counsel their clients to explain their interests and avoid taking positions.

Do Collaborative Divorce Lawyers Work Well With Other Professionals?

Most collaborative divorce attorneys will work with other professionals who are advising their client or the other spouse during the divorce process. For example, the client might work with a financial advisor for clarification regarding financial concerns about spousal or child support, retirement, or avoiding bankruptcy. The financial professional could provide advice on structuring the settlement of the divorce in order to meet each spouse’s financial needs and goals. Collaborative divorce attorneys may also work with child therapists or psychologists who represent the child’s voice and perspective.

What Types of Collaborative Training and Experience Do You Have?

Collaborative law isn’t taught in every law school. An attorney who practices collaborative law often learns these techniques through professional associations or affiliations with specific groups. These groups offer ongoing training and educational opportunities. You may want to ask the attorney how many collaborative divorce cases they have worked on and how many of those cases were settled through collaboration versus how many of the cases went to court.

Do You Belong to Any Collaborative Law Groups?

The law evolves over time, and psychologists, legal scholars and other professionals frequently develop new techniques for successful collaborations between conflicted parties. A key way for a collaborative divorce lawyer to keep up-to-date on evidence-based collaborative processes is through a professional group affiliation. In Pennsylvania, many such groups exist. For example, the Central Counties Collaborative Law Community is a group consisting of licensed attorneys, psychologists, financial professionals and others who work with divorcing couples on collaborative agreements.

When a divorce is in your future, a collaborative process may reduce the stress on everyone involved. A consultation with divorce lawyer provides you with the information you need so you can make an informed decision about the legal process. To schedule a consultation with the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania, call (215) 886-1266. You may also fill out our contact form, and an office associate will contact you.

Sep 13

What to Do When Mediation Doesn’t Work

What Happens When Mediation Fails?

Research indicates that people are more likely to have a satisfactory outcome with their divorce when they use mediation instead of the courts, but this does not mean that mediation is the best choice for every couple. Knowing what to expect if your mediation fails can help you feel a lot more comfortable with the entire process.

How to Decide If Mediation Has Failed

When mediation does not go as smoothly as possible, your first instinct might be to decide it has failed and move on. However, it is important to take a breath and remember that it is still possible to use mediation even if you have had a disagreement or two. You may want to think twice about stopping mediation unless you notice one of these problems:

  • One person is constantly belittling or harassing the other.
  • Your mediation sessions go nowhere because you are sidetracked by arguments.
  • One party refuses to budge or compromise on any issues.
  • During sessions, one person never speaks or mentions their desires.
  • Belligerent tactics, like denying access to children or threatening to cut off funds, are being used.
  • One person repeatedly lies or fails to disclose important information.
  • Proceedings are being dragged out because one party does not want to divorce.

Considering Another Round of Mediation

Noticing problems in your current mediation session does not necessarily mean that you need to give up on mediation altogether. Sometimes, it is still possible to fix your mediation. You may want to consider starting fresh with another divorce mediation lawyer. Sometimes, no matter how talented an attorney is, his or her personality just might not be right for your situation. It can also be helpful to take a short break and get a more objective outlook on mediation. This can be a good solution when you and your ex really want the benefits of mediation but are just struggling to compromise and work with each other occasionally.

Trying the Collaborative Divorce Method

Mediation not working out does not necessarily mean you need to go straight to divorce court. Another useful option can be a collaborative divorce. Collaborative law shares some similarities with mediation since both procedures involve the two parties working together to find a mutually beneficial arrangement. However, instead of working with just one mediator, each party comes to the table with their own lawyer. This can be useful because you have someone to represent your interests and take your side in discussions. The collaborative divorce method also gets more input from other unbiased parties. You meet with professionals like child therapists and financial experts to discuss your situation and get more advice.

Moving on to a Divorce Trial

When there are things you simply cannot agree on, it might be time to take things to the courts. A judge can help find the best solution for any children and assist in dividing up assets in a fair and equitable way. Even when you do not agree on every part of the divorce, you can still file a no-fault divorce in Pennsylvania. This lets you have a shorter divorce time while still getting the court’s input on deciding important aspects of your divorce. Keep in mind that all your time in mediation was not wasted just because you are involving the court. It was still a valuable way of gathering information and learning more about you and your ex’s priorities and goals.

Find the Right Option for You With Joanne Kleiner

Whether or not mediation turns out to suit your situation, the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner is here to help. With over 25 years of experience, we have the knowledge and the dedication to try and get you the best possible outcome for your divorce. In addition to being a talented divorce mediation lawyer, Joanne Kleiner also assists with a variety of other family law cases. Call our office in Jenkintown at (215) 886-1266 or fill out our contact form to schedule a confidential consultation today.

Footer

How can we help?

Please complete the form below and we will contact you.

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.

From Our Blog

  • The principle of equitable distribution in a Pennsylvania divorce
  • Divorce and Social Security retirement benefits
  • The effect of a gray divorce on your older children
  • Some tax matters associated with divorce
  • Some losses that divorce might cause

Site Info

Home  |   Practice Areas  
Firm Overview
Attorney  |  Blog  |  Contact

Social Media

FacebookTwitterLinkedin

Law Office of Joanne Kleiner | 261 Old York Rd., Ste. 402 | Jenkintown, PA 19046
215-886-1266
Map and Directions

© 2023 Joanne Kleiner. Disclaimer | Sitemap

The Best Lawyers of America Best Law Firms Award Winner Logo