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Aug 09

The Benefits of Parallel Parenting After a Divorce

Reasons to Consider Parallel Parenting After Your Divorce

Although the divorce rate in the United States has been dropping for about 20 years, nearly 39% of first marriages end in a divorce. Many of these marriages include young children, and conflict around parenting and child custody is one of the primary areas of contention discussed with a divorce lawyer. One way that divorcing couples can reduce stress and conflict and minimize time in the courtroom is to create a plan for parallel parenting of their children.

What Is Parallel Parenting?

Parallel parenting is a method of raising children in which the divorced parents minimize interactions with each other. Instead of arguing with each other, they focus their time and energy on their children. This is an effective parenting method when you and your ex-spouse have difficulty being civil with each other.

How Does Parallel Parenting Differ From Co-Parenting?

In a co-parenting situation, parents regularly communicate with each other, present a united front, and have similar rules at each residence. It involves a lot of cooperation and communication. Parallel parenting divides parenting responsibilities and minimizes interactions between the adults. By dividing responsibilities and following the plan, the parents may rarely need to interact with each other.

Who Should Consider Parallel Parenting?

Divorced couples who can’t seem to agree on anything should consider developing a parallel parenting plan with a divorce lawyer. Instead of focusing on problems with each other, this plan focuses on the well-being of the children. Minimizing interaction between the divorced parents also reduces stress and the amount of time that is spent in a courtroom.

How Does Parallel Parenting Benefit Divorcing Parents?

A parallel parenting plan allows both parents to remain active in their children’s lives. It minimizes the stress on each other and disruption for the children. A successful parallel parenting plan demonstrates that parents can focus on what’s best for their children instead of their disagreements, dislike, or distrust for each other. The plan creates guidance for common issues that are likely to breed conflict, such as where children will spend the holidays or which parent will deal with behavioral problems at school. A well-thought parallel parenting plan also makes it easier for divorced parents to move on with their lives after a marriage filled with conflict and arguments.

How Do Children Benefit from Parallel Parenting?

When parents establish a parallel parenting plan, children tend to develop fewer behavioral and emotional problems. They’re more likely to do better in school, develop strong friendships, and have positive relationships with each parent. Parallel parenting also helps children build better self-esteem, and they may be able to avoid feeling as if they were the cause of their parents’ marital problems or the reason for the divorce.

What Should I Include in a Parallel Parenting Plan?

A plan for parallel parenting should include as many specifics as possible. Although you can’t possibly anticipate every event or emergency that could occur with your child or ex-spouse, some elements that you should cover include the start and end of each parent’s visiting time, how and where your child will be exchanged, who is responsible for transporting your child, what happens if one parent misses or cancels their scheduled visit and when each parent has exclusive decision-making power. Some other aspects of parenting to add to your plan include who will take your child to medical and dental appointments, how to handle accidents and injuries, scheduling social, school, and religious activities, and dealing with behavioral issues and daily routines.

If you’re considering a divorce and would like to know more about parallel parenting, you may benefit from speaking with a divorce lawyer. Contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania, at (215) 886-1266, or enter your information into our contact form, and an associate will reach out to you to schedule a consultation.

Dec 17

The Determination of Primary Caregiver

How a Parent Can Be Designated As a Primary Caregiver

One of the primary components of child support is determining who is the primary caregiver for the child, which plays a part in who receives the child support payments. In 2014, around 82 percent of primary caregivers were mothers, with only 18 percent being fathers. When you are going through a divorce or separation and need to know more about child support, one of our child support lawyers can help answer your questions.

The Importance of a Primary Caregiver in Child Support Cases

In almost all cases, the primary caregiver of the child will receive child support payments from the other parent. While determining the identity of the primary caregiver plays a large role in child custody cases, it’s also important with child support. The parent who gains custody of the child will be considered to be the child’s primary caregiver, which means that the other parent is going to need to make child support payments.

The parent who becomes the child’s primary caregiver is usually the one who can display to the courts that he or she was the main caregiver for the child during the marriage. Along with being able to support the child financially, the primary caregiver will also need to have an emotional bond with the child. In the event that both parents share custody equally with no one being labeled as a primary caregiver, child support payments may still need to be paid and are determined by which individual brings in the most income.

How the Role of Primary Caregiver Is Determined

When the courts are attempting to identify which of the parents should be the primary caregiver for the child, their primary focus is on how the individuals have divided the main responsibilities that they have as parents. These responsibilities include tasks like:

  • The planning and preparation of meals
  • General health care plans
  • Grooming, dressing, and bathing
  • Attending parent-teacher conferences as well as open houses at school
  • Partaking in fun activities with the child
  • Helping the child with his or her homework while also teaching him or her skills like reading and writing
  • Taking care of laundry and purchasing any necessary clothes

The parent who performs the majority of these tasks will likely be named as the primary caregiver of the child in question. While other factors may come into play, the person who spends the most time with the child and is able to support him or her financially has the largest chance of being designated as the primary caregiver.

Making Decisions Based on the Child’s Best Interests

If the courts are provided with comprehensive information that details how the parental responsibilities are divided between both people but can’t come to a decision about which one should be the primary caregiver, it’s possible that this decision will be made by the courts based on the child’s best interests, which can determine who will be making child support payments. If the parental responsibilities are divided evenly among each person, there are many factors that will be considered when looking at what is in the child’s best interest. These factors include:

  • The child’s age
  • The child’s opinion (if appropriate)
  • The mental and physical health of the parents
  • Any evidence of drug abuse, emotional abuse, or excessive amounts of discipline by the parent
  • How the parent interacts with other members within the household
  • Which parent would allow for the continuation of a steady home environment

When one parent has been named as the primary caregiver of the child, the other person will need to start making child support payments on a monthly basis. Consider contacting our child support lawyer if you’re wondering about how these payments are calculated.

If you still have questions about whether you will be able to become your child’s primary caregiver, contact one of our Jenkintown child support lawyers at (215) 886-1266 to have a more detailed conversation about your case.