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Oct 22

How to Negotiate a Divorce Settlement With Your Spouse

Tips for Negotiating Your Own Divorce Settlement

A pro se divorce is a divorce in which one or both spouses represent themselves. Divorce lawyers generally recommend a collaborative divorce as an alternative, but if you do represent yourself, there are certain strategies you can employ to help ensure a successful divorce settlement.

Research Your Legal Rights and Responsibilities

You and your spouse have certain legal responsibilities that cannot be negotiated away. An attempt to do so will result in refusal of the proposed divorce settlement agreement by the judge. It is also essential that you understand your legal rights because it is possible for you to negotiate them away.

Check Your Emotions

No matter how amicable, a divorce will be an emotional affair. A potential benefit to retaining the services of a divorcee lawyer is that it helps to eliminate the excess emotions. However, emotions are not necessarily bad. They are only problematic when you let them get in the way. Think positive. Get ample rest. Exercise and eat well, and if you ever feel overwhelmed, take a break from the negotiation in order to reboot.

Set Mutual Ground Rules

Negotiation should start with agreeing on ground rules. Determine when, where and how you will negotiate. Agree on a neutral site. Establish a timeline and a deadline.

Be Flexible

In order for a divorce to be amicable, it is important to be flexible and to work to ensure that any agreement benefits both you and your spouse. Keep an open mind. Brainstorm alternatives when there seems there are none, and be willing to concede at times. You both will have to.

Negotiate Based on Interests

A common mistake when negotiating a divorce with a spouse is bargaining from a position rather than what your interests are. If you focus on what is important to you rather than what you have a right to, you may relinquish your position at times, but you will likely gain more ground and at a faster pace.

Identify Needs and Wants for Both Spouses

Not only is it useful to negotiate based on your interests but the interests of your spouse. Wants are important, but needs are integral. If your spouse has a need and you seek to negotiate a settlement that does not meet that need, you likely will not be successful, and you will at the very least fail your spouse.

Know Your Finances

Another common mistake is not having a full appreciation of your finances, and it is not uncommon in marriages for one spouse to have much greater awareness of the money situation than the other. This lack of knowledge puts you at a disadvantage and could lead to a wide range of bad decisions.

Recognize Your Best and Worst Alternatives

BATNA and WATNA are negotiating concepts that apply to divorce settlements, and they are acronyms for best and worst alternative to a negotiated agreement. What if the negotiation fails? What are the worst things that could happen? The answer to that question is often enough motivation to help reach a compromise.

Determine Your Bottom Line

Determine the aspects of any agreement that you simply cannot live without. Explain those to your spouse and have him or her do the same. Make sure that your bottom line is realistic, and be willing to walk away if your spouse is not willing to reach a bottom line that is fair and practical.

Always Have a Plan

Have a plan in place even before you agree on the ground rules. Be open to the idea that your plan will change. Determine your bottom line, but try to recognize your spouse’s bottom line and all the areas in which you can be flexible. Also, consider contingencies for those times when things do not go as expected.

Protect Your Interests and Legal Rights

If you are considering divorce or if your spouse has already filed, the Law Office of Joanne E. Kleiner is here to help. Schedule a consultation with a divorce lawyer through which we can assist you in determining the best path for you and your family. To do so, you can contact us online, or call our Jenkintown office at 215-886-1266.

Sep 16

How Do You Negotiate a Satisfactory Alimony Payment Plan?

Tips for Negotiating Fair Alimony Payments

As more and more women join the workplace, alimony rates have dropped sharply. However, alimony may still be necessary in some situations. To reduce the stress and hassle associated with alimony negotiations, follow these tips.

Know the Legal Guidelines Around Alimony

Before you even begin negotiations, it is important to know what you can and cannot do. In Pennsylvania, the law only requires alimony in situations in which one spouse is dependent on the other. There is no set threshold for what counts as a dependency, but it usually involves one spouse paying for the majority of the other spouse’s living expenses.

It is possible for someone to receive support after splitting from his or her spouse but before the divorce is finalized. This alimony has to be calculated with a formula determined by Pennsylvania law. For alimony after a divorce, there is more leeway in how it is calculated. The couple can come to an agreement on their own, or the court will consider the alimony petition and decide for them. The court will consider things like:

  • The length of the marriage
  • Each spouse’s earning capacity
  • Each spouse’s physical health
  • The standard of living during the marriage
  • Whether the custodial parent will be able to earn enough money
  • How many personal assets each spouse has

Check Any Prenups You Signed

If you signed a prenuptial agreement, one of the first things to do is go over the document carefully with your divorce lawyer. In most cases, you will need to stick to your prenuptial agreement during the divorce. This is generally the fairest and simplest way of determining alimony. However, either one of the spouses can ask the court to throw out prenup alimony provisions. If the court determines that the prenup would destitute one of the spouses, it may be thrown out. You can also get a prenup thrown out if you can show that there were irregularities in creating the document.

Gather Information About All Parties’ Incomes, Assets and Expenses

A fair alimony negotiation depends primarily on taking a close look at both party’s finances. You will need to consider which assets are shared marital assets that will be split in the divorce and which assets are separately owned and that each spouse gets to keep. Next, take a look at how much each person earns. In addition to current salary, look at income potential. For example, a person who was a stay-at-home parent for 20 years may find it hard to get a high-paying job.

Figuring out how much money each person has can help you see whether you or your spouse needs alimony. In addition to income, you also need to evaluate needs. Look at each person’s lifestyle, and try to determine how much he or she would need for food, shelter and other essentials. Remember that each person should, ideally, have enough to keep up with the standard of living he or she had before the divorce.

Avoid Extremely Unfair Offers or Other Rude Behavior

When negotiating alimony, try to keep it focused on the facts. Talk about how much each partner makes, how much each individual needs and whether each person is legally entitled to alimony. Unfortunately, this is often easier said than done when emotions are involved. Divorces can be fairly complicated, and many people are tempted to use alimony as a way of resolving hurt feelings.

This can lead to issues like one party asking for an abnormally high amount of money or offering an insultingly low amount. Alimony negotiations can further devolve if partners start slinging accusations at each other, engaging in name-calling or involving children in arguments. If you are worried that personal feelings may get in the way of fair alimony, consider hiring a mediator or working with a lawyer that has experience with these types of matters. This can help your negotiations proceed more fairly.

If you want a fair and satisfactory alimony negotiation, you need talented divorce lawyers on your side. The Law Office of Joanne Kleiner is here in Jenkintown to help with alimony and other parts of a divorce. Call (215) 886-1266 or fill out our online contact form to schedule a consultation now.

Aug 16

Divorce Mediation and Arbitration: What You Need to Know

According to published information, there were more than 34,000 weddings in Pennsylvania in 2020. While nobody enters a marriage anticipating that it will come to an end at some point, circumstances and situations may change over time, which could then lead to the need to have an attorney explore available options. Below, we take a closer look at two ways to approach end-of-marriage negotiations in the Keystone State: mediation and arbitration.

Divorce-Related Mediation

If the end of a marriage isn’t especially contentious, a divorce lawyer may recommend mediation as a way to reach a mutually agreeable settlement. Divorce mediation gives separating spouses a way to handle negotiations with the help of an impartial third party.

How It Works

The mediator acts as a sounding board and does not have the authority to offer legal advice. The role of the mediator is primarily to guide both parties through the settlement process. This often involves identifying the main interests or priorities of each spouse without focusing on “wants” or “entitlements.”

For instance, one spouse may “want” the family car or feel “entitled” to it even though they already have another vehicle to use. The other spouse, on the other hand, may “need” this vehicle for work. With a situation like this, a mediator might point out that if the spouse in need of the car can keep working, they’ll be more likely to be able to pay any child or spousal support that may be part of the settlement.

Sessions with a mediator usually take place in a conference room or similar setting, at least to start with. After this, meetings usually take place individually with each party. Should a point be reached where progress can no longer be made due to lingering disagreements, arbitration or litigation may be recommended.

Benefits associated with mediation for divorcing couples include:

  • Saving time and money
  • Reducing emotional stress
  • Encouraging respect and cooperation
  • Keeping the focus on problem solving in a productive way

Divorce-Related Arbitration

Arbitration is often recommended when an impasse has been reached by divorcing spouses, as may be the case if the less-formal approach of mediation isn’t working well for involved parties. It’s a process that can be appealing to couples preferring to avoid court while still reaching a settlement arrangement that’s mutually acceptable. It’s also a way to work through key issues in a more structured setting.

How It Works

Arbitration takes place in a private setting, not a courtroom and it can take the place of in-court proceedings. The time and place are determined based on what’s convenient for the divorcing spouses, allowing for more flexibility than what’s typical with courtroom proceedings. An attorney represents each spouse, and an arbitrator both parties can agree on is also selected.

The arbitration goes through the various issues that need to be reviewed and resolved. In some instances, the spouses or their legal representatives can determine the nature of the process and how long the arbitrator has to make a decision. The arbitrator’s decision is referred to as an “award,” which is based on the disputed issues. Typically, this decision cannot be appealed.

Benefits of arbitration for divorcing couples include:

  • Being able to select an arbitrator experienced with the main issues involved
  • Defining the specific issues involved
  • Maintaining and privacy and confidentiality for both spouses
  • Avoiding the stress and rigors of a traditional court-related divorce

When you’re dealing with the end of a marriage in Pennsylvania, an experienced divorce lawyer can make a big difference as you sort through your options. Whether you’re having issues with a contested divorce or hoping to resolve matters as amicably as possible, the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown, PA, is here to help. Contact our office today at (215) 886-1266 to schedule an appointment.

May 02

The Pros and Cons of a Nesting Divorce Plan

Can Nesting Work After a Divorce?

An estimated 50 percent of kids in the U.S. will see their parents go through a divorce. If this is happening to you and your spouse, you may be wondering how to help your kids through the transition. One option is to set up a nesting divorce arrangement with help from a Jenkintown divorce lawyer. 

What Is a Nesting Divorce Plan?

Nesting is a co-parenting arrangement that involves keeping the family home and letting the kids live there full time. It’s an alternative to moving them back and forth between the homes of two exes. 

In this situation, you’ll rent another space or two if you have the budget. You and your ex will be the ones to shift where you’re sleeping. Here’s how it works:

  • When it’s your time with the kids, you’ll move into the family home while your ex lives in the rented space.
  • When it’s your ex’s turn to be with the kids, he or she will move into the family home while you live in the rental.
  • You’ll continue to swap your shared living arrangements until your kids are old enough to be on their own or you can no longer sustain the lifestyle.

Not as Easy as It Sounds

Even if you and your ex are the ones moving in and out of the family home, you’ll need to be on good enough terms to establish a parenting plan. On its own, nesting doesn’t take the place of a plan or your time-sharing agreement.

Finances will be one major factor. You’ll need to decide who will pay for what and how. In addition to creating a regular schedule, it’s important to also work out who will be in the family home on weekends and holidays.

The Benefits of Nesting

You may benefit financially by keeping the family home and renting another small space to share. Living expenses are typically the biggest cost most people incur following a divorce. Along with the cost for the living space, you will also save on utility bills, cable/internet and other general living expenses. 

The emotional well-being of your children is another benefit of nesting. Shared living arrangements can be a lot easier on kids, especially if you have teens. Even though teens will have a better understanding of the situation, they might not like adjusting their living arrangements. Keeping children in the family home will ensure that they go to the same school and have the same friends. This may bring about better mental and emotional stability. 

The Downside to Nesting

The downside to keeping the family house is that you’ll still be tied to your ex in a very real way financially. When you sell the house and take separate paths, you’re creating a clean break. Child support would still be a factor but just until the kids are grown. Keeping the house is a much closer connection. 

Furthermore, simple matters like paying the cable bill can become major arguments. You may also run into big expenses such as the home needing a new roof or experiencing a flooding problem. In many cases, ex-couples will have to find a way to compromise on the finances. 

You’ll also need to work out child support. This can be especially tricky if you’re living in the same place. Dealing with the finances regarding food and the other shared residence expenses is another sticky challenge. 

The emotional side effect of sharing a home may be a problem as well. Are either of you planning to date? Will you bring someone home? You’ll have to decide how to work these issues out. 

A Jenkintown Divorce Lawyer Can Help You Navigate Your Divorce

If you’re considering a divorce, then let us help. At Joanne Kleiner & Associates in Jenkintown, we can help you set up a divorce nesting plan or a split involving a complete separation. Call our office at (215) 886-1266 to set up an appointment.

Dec 29, 2017

Is January a Good Time to Consider Filing for Divorce in Pennsylvania?

It is never an easy decision to come to terms with the fact that you may want to file for divorce, although the decision that you make immediately after that one such as selecting the date that you will actually move forward with the divorce petition is one that mandates more strategic considerations. Your filing date for divorce impacts many different financial aspects of the final divorce settlement because it is the formal beginning of the legal process for divorce.

The right lawyer can walk you through each stage of your case so that you know whether or not now is right for you. Divorce is so personal that it helps to have someone who cares about your best interests.

Your date of filing might also impact your children and you psychologically. There is no one right answer to when is the right time to file for divorce in Pennsylvania, however, for people who have opted already to divorce over the holiday season or in the fall, the answer for them is often January. There are numerous different reasons why January comes out on top as one of the most popular months for people to initiate a divorce petition. First of all, the holidays are finished in January.

Parents may help children cope and adjust to the transition of divorce by keeping as much stability as possible during the holiday season. It can represent significant challenges and emotional problems for children who are in the midst of a sudden divorce with their parents during the holidays. The holidays are usually a busy time for families with children and this makes it all the more important and also challenging to maintain the necessary stable environment.

If you and your spouse have not yet separated asking for your kids to suddenly deal with you in separate houses during the holidays can be stressful and confusing. This can also lead to questions about who will see the children when. If it is possible for you to stay under one roof peacefully during this time, you may do so for your children’s sake.

Another reason that many people consider filing for divorce in Pennsylvania in January is because the year-end bonus may be in the bank. If you or your spouse gets a bonus from your employer every December, filing for divorce in January clarifies that all income over the previous year, such as year-end work bonuses, is classified as marital property. Other common reasons for people to consider waiting for January has to do with planning for the new tax year and New Year’s resolutions.

The fresh perspective on the change of the year could cause you to finally make the decision to initiate a divorce petition after consulting with an experienced divorce attorney. The perspective of new year’s resolutions may lead you to reflect back on your life and think about whether or not the marriage is capable of being salvaged. With numerous different tax implications involved in a divorce, finishing out the year before rearranging the finances between two different households is often a practical decision.

No matter when you decide to move forward with a divorce, scheduling a consultation with an experienced Pennsylvania divorce lawyer is strongly recommended to give you a clear understanding of what is required of you as well as any necessary steps you should take to protect yourself as you move forward in the legal system. There are many different details to keep track of but you can increase your likelihood of success by working directly with a lawyer who can advise you about all of the things you need to consider before initiating your divorce petition.

CONTACT US

At the Law Office of Joanne E. Kleiner, we have more than 25 years of family law experience. We’ll help you stay focused on what matters. To schedule an appointment with an experienced Pennsylvania divorce attorney, contact our office online or call us at 215-886-1266.