Law Office of Joanne Kleiner

Amicable Divorce Attorney

Parenting Time Schedules

Mar 24

Advice for Setting Up a Mutually Beneficial Parenting Schedule

Tips for Setting a Co-Parenting Schedule Without Court Involvement

Determining child custody is an essential part of most divorces. Despite the animosity that spouses might feel toward one another, roughly four-fifths of child custody agreements are decided without judges or other third-party entities getting involved. Considering this widespread trend in the world of divorce, you should have a good idea of how to go about successfully reaching a co-parenting schedule that you and your soon-to-be-ex-partner both agree on without third-party involvement.

1. Understand That Parenting Plans Don’t Just Include Schedules

Parenting schedules determine when and where divorced parents can spend time with their children. In some cases, one party can only visit their children at the other parent’s house. However, most parenting schedules allow the other parent to take custody of their kids for at least one full day every two weeks.

Parenting plans don’t just determine when parents will see their kids. These plans also outline who will be responsible for making important decisions. A few of the most common decision-making topics covered by parenting plans include:

  • School enrollment
  • Medical treatment
  • Health insurance plans

Knowing that parenting plans contain both time-sharing and decision-making agreements could improve your chances of reaching a comprehensive parenting plan that meets your own and your spouse’s needs.

2. Think Outside of the Box

Many experienced divorced parents have found that one-week-on, one-week-off co-parenting schedules aren’t ideal. Although they might seem like the definition of fairness, these alternating-week schedules can cause serious problems down the road. Having your kids for an entire week at a time can force you to incur substantial child care expenses. It can also lead to unnecessary stress, in turn stifling your parental performance.

Ideally, divorced parents who are on good terms allow each other to see their children on off weeks. This is essential to keeping your kids happy and healthy as children typically don’t like going a full week without seeing their mom or dad.

It’s important to create a parenting plan that leaves room for flexibility. For example, maybe you find that it works better to switch custody every two or three days. If you keep an open mind and remain willing to change the plan as needed, you’re more likely to land on an agreement that works out for everyone’s benefit.

3. Be Transparent About Your Expectations and Concerns

Be clear about your custody expectations with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Obscuring your goals can lead your former partner to feel wronged, potentially complicating your divorce even further.

If you’re not sure how to approach your spouse with these expectations and concerns, run them by your divorce lawyer. Should you not feel confident disclosing them to your spouse on your own, your divorce lawyer can share these ideas with your spouse in a way that avoids rocking the proverbial boat.

4. Think About Using Co-Parenting Apps

Consumer technology has undoubtedly made some facets of life easier. Many divorced parents have had good experiences with co-parenting apps. These mobile apps and computer programs help you track important documents, organize all co-parenting matters and keep from forgetting essential details.

Co-parenting platforms back up all information shared to secure cloud servers, which hold you and your former spouse accountable. You can share receipts, medical bills and calendar information and keep it all in one secure place.

A Family Law Attorney Could Improve Your Bargaining Experience

If you’re like most parents, you place your children’s well-being and future prospects above everything else. Considering the decades-long effects a divorce can have, you should enter the divorce process prepared to negotiate with the best interests of your children in mind.

Let skilled divorce lawyer Joanne E. Kleiner help you through your divorce. Feel free to stop by our main office in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania, or call us at (215) 886-1266. You can also reach out to us by completing our website’s contact form.

Jul 26, 2012

Problems that Can Arise in Child Parenting Time

Child parenting time or visitation is the time that a noncustodial parent spends with his or her child. Custody and visitation rights are granted based upon your child’s best interests, and generally the family court prefers minor children to have regular and continuing contact with both parents when possible.

Although Pennsylvania custody laws enable parents to come to reasonable visitation agreements between themselves, the plan must be in the child’s best interests and the parents must agree on it. Problems arise when the parents cannot reach an agreement and, in such a case, the court steps in and develops a child visitation schedule that the parents and child must follow. Situations that can make reaching a child parenting agreement difficult can include:

• Acrimony between the ex-spouses
• The desire of one parent to punish the other
• Disputes over child support payments
• Domestic abuse and/or parental neglect issues

The family court views visitation rights as a privilege, so custody is not automatically awarded. In fact, if the court determines that awarding visitation is not in the child’s best interests, sole custody may be awarded to the other parent. And even if visitation rights are denied, the noncustodial parent is required to pay child support.

However, child parenting plans are not set in stone and can be modified for several reasons. An experienced Pennsylvania family law attorney can help you determine if your circumstances are adequate to request a modification of an existing child custody order.

Consult a Pennsylvania family law attorney

In any divorce proceeding involving minor children it is always prudent to work with an experienced family law attorney. Contact us online or call (215) 886-1266 and schedule a consultation to discuss your child parenting time issue.

Jul 12, 2012

Child Parenting Time (Visitation) Guidelines

The intent of child parenting time is to ensure that both parents may play a significant role in their child’s life. While being a parent is not easy and all parents make mistakes, it is in your child’s best interests to have a good and loving relationship with each parent.

In developing a child parenting (visitation) plan, the following guidelines may be helpful:

• Maintain regular contact between the child and both parents.

• Parents should refrain from physically or verbally attacking the other parent in the presence of their children.

• The custodial parent should ensure the children are prepared for the visitation and available at the mutually agreed-upon time. And the noncustodial parent should return the child at the agreed-upon time.

• Visitation should be allowed outside the child’s primary residence, such as the noncustodial parent’s home or an agreed-upon outing location.

• Parents should refrain from involving romantic partners in their child visitation time. This time is meant to be shared with child and parent, and involving third parties can be confusing and dilute the quality of parenting time.

• Time spent with the noncustodial parent should be as frequent as is practical. Schedules should be flexible enough to allow for changes when necessary, and the other parent should be informed of schedule changes as soon as possible.

• Any schedule established should be adjusted to reflect your child’s age, health and interests as he or she grows.

• Each parent should encourage a good relationship between the child and the other parent, regardless of his or her personal opinion of the ex-spouse.

• Never use your children as bargaining chips, spies or go-betweens with the other parent. The purpose of parenting time is to spend time with your child.

• Both parents should resolve to reach agreement in decisions about their children, especially concerning discipline. And disagreements should never be discussed in your child’s presence.

Talk to a Pennsylvania family law attorney today

Visitation issues can be difficult, but an experienced Pennsylvania family law attorney can help you navigate the process. Contact us online or call (215) 886-1266 to discuss your child parenting matter.

Jun 28, 2012

Child Parenting Time (Visitation) Agreements

Pennsylvania family law attorneys are often asked what type of child parenting time schedule could be awarded in a particular client’s circumstances. While each family’s situation is unique, a typical child parenting schedule may include the following:

• Supervised visits. In cases where endangerment is an issue, visits are typically restricted to supervised visits of a few hours per week.

• Every other weekend. This would be typical as a bare minimum visitation for involved noncustodial parents, and may be most workable for parents who do not live in close proximity but close enough to work out alternate weekends.

• Every other weekend and one weekday evening. This is a common visitation arrangement for couples living in close proximity, with the children returning to the primary residence on the weeknight.

• Every other weekend and one overnight weeknight. This is also a popular visitation arrangement in which the weeknight visit extends overnight.

• Every other weekend and two weekday evenings per week. This visitation arrangement may be more appropriate for older children who require less intensive care and have later bedtime schedules.

• Every other weekend and two overnight weeknights. This type of visitation schedule is more likely when a joint physical custody arrangement exists.

• Week on, week off. This is the clearest example of equal time — however, many parents do not like a full week without seeing their children.

• Six days and one (overnight). This is similar to a week on, week off arrangement, except that the alternating parent has a day midweek.

• Six days and one (evening). This is the same as above except the midweek day has no overnight stay.

• Two-two-three-three. This schedule rotates Monday/Tuesday, then Wednesday/Thursday, then Friday, Saturday, Sunday and then repeats.

• Two-two-five-five. This schedule gives every Monday/Tuesday to one parent and every Wednesday/Thursday to the other parent, and then weeks are rotated.

Contact a Pennsylvania family law attorney today

An experienced family law attorney can help you determine the type of visitation schedule that is most suited to your family’s needs. Contact us online or call (215) 886-1266 to discuss your child parenting time agreement.