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May 01

Lockdowns Have Contributed to More Domestic Violence

After COVID-19, You May Need a Divorce Lawyer

With the advent of lockdowns around the world, countries such as South Africa and France have seen a surge in calls to violence prevention help lines; France had an increase of 30% the first week of its coronavirus quarantine. Domestic violence in the home, often considered a safe place, has increased during this pandemic, according to the UN. Those who have experienced these issues before are now seeing more violence as proximity in quarantine with abusers is the result.

Increased Anxiety and Stressors

Loss of jobs, stay-at-home orders, having to practice social or physical distancing, the threat of being sick, and depressing, scary news all contribute to a general feeling of anxiety that has increased during the coronavirus pandemic. A husband or wife who was somewhat abusive before may now become increasingly violent or mentally abusive as frustration deepens. An abuser may withhold medicine, give the wrong information regarding the pandemic, get angry when help with the household is suggested, and be violent. Often, abuse takes the form of emotional and physical torment.

Staying Safe During COVID-19 Within Your Own Home

You may need to reach out to a help line or begin to think of distancing yourself from your abuser. This means leaving your home for a place that is safe from domestic violence. The next step would be talking to a lawyer who can help with divorce and separation, or, in cases without violence, mediation.

Keeping Your Family Safe During and After the Pandemic

You want your children to be safe from all kinds of abuse as well as the virus. If you are thinking of leaving an abusive situation, it is important to do the following:

  • Tell your kids the truth.
  • Say “I love you” to them.
  • Prepare them for a change of address.
  • Avoid blame.

Keep explanations simple. Acknowledge their feelings and let them be honest with you. Kids need to know that it is not their fault; however, if they have been in a stay-at-home situation, they may already know why you are thinking of a divorce. Having seen physical or psychological abuse close up, your children may not need explanations.

Separation and Divorce

With every household situation being different, you may need a customized solution that is geared toward important issues. You don’t need more squabbles when you’re trying to resolve your family problems in stressful times.

In some cases, separation agreements may be the first step in distancing you and your family from a chaotic home or one where a spouse is making life difficult. To add to the problem, being cooped up with an unhappy person adds to the chaos and disruption. It increases the stress that everyone is feeling during the pandemic. A new layer of stress has been added as people are now in quarantine together whether they like it or not.

As witnessed in China, the divorce rate reportedly spiked across two provinces as quarantine restrictions were lifted. Relationships were very affected by the pandemic in that country. According to Time magazine, the number of domestic violence cases in China reported to the local police tripled in February of 2020 compared to February of 2019.

If your partner is physically abusive and you have injuries, you should not let the fear of this virus prevent you from seeking medical attention. Fear should not also be allowed to prevent you from separating yourself from an abusive partner during the pandemic. You may now be at the stage, even if abuse is not part of your situation, where you are contemplating divorce. Know that you are not alone in this. Caring help is just a phone call or text away whether to a domestic violence hotline or to our office.

If you have experienced domestic violence problems or are thinking of contacting a Pennsylvania divorce lawyer, give the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner a call at (215) 886-1266 today to arrange a confidential appointment in Jenkintown. We can help you go over your options and move forward with your life.

Oct 15

How to Get a Divorce Quickly

Ways to Quickly Finalize a Divorce

Getting a divorce can be an emotionally trying time for both parties involved as the marriage comes to an end. The risk of divorce is between 42-45%, which means almost half of all married couples have to endure the process. If you want to move on with your life and get a divorce quickly, there are a few critical steps to take.

Put Everything in Writing

All agreements need to be put into writing to ensure that no one changes his or her mind or goes back on his or her word whether it involves dividing assets or child custody. Creating a written agreement can prevent delays and complications even if you’re getting along with one another. It’s also necessary to collect specific documents to finalize the divorce. You’ll need to obtain your children’s birth certificates, your marriage certificate, the prenup agreement if there is one, your mortgage papers, portfolios and joint bank accounts. By staying organized, you can save extra time and avoid additional conflict.

Consider a Collaborative Law Divorce

Collaborative law divorce is one of the types of divorces available and can allow you to reach agreements outside of court. Not only could it make the process smoother and quicker, but it could also save you money. Similar to mediation, it involves a third party and includes negotiations to finalize the divorce. You won’t have to worry about the decisions that are made being imposed by the court. It can take place in an informal setting and include an honest exchange of information. Each person will need to hire his or her own attorney. Communicate to the legal representative what you want, but keep in mind that you’ll still need to compromise and remain flexible during the negotiation process. A licensed mediator may also need to be used if it becomes difficult to reach agreements. The process of a collaborative law divorce also includes meeting with other professionals, like child therapists and financial advisors, to receive additional information for your situation.

Remain Honest

Many people are prone to bending the truth while getting a divorce as a way to protect themselves. Unfortunately, a lack of transparency can be detrimental to your case if you fail to remain honest with your ex and his or her lawyer. You’ll need to completely disclose all your financial information and avoid moving money around or hiding it. If you’re caught lying, you can lose custody of your children and even some of the assets that are in the process of being divided.

Keep the Children in Mind

It can be easy to neglect kids while getting a divorce because many people focus on their own pain and trauma, which can lead to issues that lengthen the process of getting a divorce. Children can also experience the same effects, which makes it necessary to keep them in mind with each decision that is made when you’re separating from your spouse. Their well-being should be the top priority when working out the details of the child custody arrangement or dividing assets. It’s also important to avoid complaining about your spouse, which can negatively affect your kids and how they view the other parent. Consider investing in a therapist for both you and your children to ensure you can heal and move on quickly.

Make Communication a Priority

Although your marriage may have deteriorated, it doesn’t mean that you can’t engage in proper communication with your former spouse. Working together to complete the divorce can help avoid tension and conflict. Your spouse will be more willing to negotiate if he or she already has been communicating with you. Reaching an agreement on some of the main aspects of the divorce can allow it to be finalized more quickly.

Contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown at (215) 886-1266 to find out more about how you can get divorced quickly. With the help of a family attorney, you can learn more about your rights and have the assistance of a legal professional who can help you navigate the process.