Managing Divorce and the Holidays at the Same Time
Roughly 41% of all first marriages will end in divorce, and that percentage is even higher if it is a second or third marriage. While divorce may be relatively common, it doesn’t mean that it is an easy process to go through. It can be even harder if you are trying to get divorced during the months of November or December.
The Holidays Are About Tradition
One of the hardest parts about ending a marriage just before Thanksgiving or Christmas is missing out on the experiences that you once happily shared with another person. You may regret not being able to cook a turkey for your spouse and kids on Thanksgiving or open Christmas presents at your in-law’s house.
One way to overcome the loss of old traditions is to start new ones. For example, you may want to celebrate Thanksgiving with your kids the day before or after the holiday is officially observed. Instead of opening presents with extended family members, make a nice breakfast for your kids on Christmas morning.
You May Spend Time Apart From Your Kids
It can be extremely difficult for a parent to spend time away from his or her children during the holiday season. However, it is important to remember that your kids will want to spend time with as many different people as possible. Therefore, it is likely that you will be able to spend a few hours with them.
It is critical that you encourage your child to interact with your former spouse as much as possible. This prevents a child from feeling forced to choose one person over the other, and it makes it easier for your son or daughter to create memories that will be cherished forever. When you aren’t with your child, it may be possible to keep yourself in good spirits by baking cookies, listening to Christmas songs or simply taking a hot bath.
The Weather Can Make Everything Feel Worse
November and December are among the darkest and coldest of the 12 months. A lack of sunlight can cause a person to become depressed, anxious and tired regardless of whether he or she sleeps at night. Therefore, you could be more likely to be in a precarious state of mind even if everything was perfect in your relationship.
It may be in your best interest to speak with a therapist or take other steps to overcome any health issues caused by a cold or dark environment. For instance, you may want to consider adding artificial ultraviolet lighting in your bedroom or home. A portable light could help you be more productive at work or help brighten your mood while away from home. Our Jenkintown divorce lawyer may be able to offer other suggestions to help you through this difficult time in your life.
Try to Avoid Contact With Your Former Spouse
Looking at pictures of your former spouse online can be an easy way to become frustrated or upset. You should also refrain from calling or texting your ex unless your children are the subject. It is important to remember that everyone moves on from the end of a relationship in different ways. Therefore, the fact that the person who used to be your husband or wife may be with someone new doesn’t mean that he or she is over you.
It is also important to note that anything that you say or do could be used against you in a divorce hearing. The same is true in a child custody or support hearing. Therefore, you should keep your comments to yourself until the case is over. If you have to tell someone what you found online, it may be best to consult with our Jenkintown divorce lawyer. She may be able to use it as evidence in court.
If you are looking for help with your divorce case, contact the Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown today. You can reach our office by calling (215) 886-1266 or sending a fax to (215) 886-2670.