Nesting Plan | Divorce Lawyer
Now more than ever couples considering divorce want options. There are many different variations of how people choose to get divorced and how they structure their life after the fact.
What is Nesting?
One recent development that more families are considering is called a nesting plan and it could help you and your former spouse chart out an appropriate way to parent. However, nesting plans are not right for everyone. Read on to learn more about how these plans work and how you can identify whether or not it’s the right fit for you.
For the vast majority of people going through a divorce, keeping the children in the family home is the main priority and this is for a good reason. The marital residence might be the only home ever known by the children and with so much change on the rise, stability may be the only thing you and your former spouse can agree on.
As parents go through a divorce, they may feel that the children should be kept in the home because it will help with stability and comfort during a time of major transition.
A nesting plan means that both parents take a turn living in the primary home while the children stay there all the time. There are a number of different issues you need to consider before deciding if this is the right choice for you, and the help of your family lawyer cannot be understated.
How Do I Know Whether Nesting is the Right Fit for Us?
Your Montgomery County Pennsylvania family attorney may be able to recommend whether or not nesting makes sense in your case. A nesting plan refers to co-parenting in which both children keep the marital family home. The parents then might also rent additional space for the two of them to share or their own one-bedroom apartment after their divorce and it’s not their parenting time.
The parent will live in the marital home and the other parent lives in the rented space until the parenting time switches; however, this might initially seem simple but if you and the spouse are rotating in and out of your previous marital home, you will still need a parenting plan. A bird nesting plan is not a substitute for a time-sharing agreement or a parenting plan.
Pros and Cons of Nesting Plans
There are benefits and disadvantages to the nesting plan. It could reduce your potential post-marital housing costs to have a small apartment while keeping the family home that you may already own. This is usually the biggest expense that each person will incur after a divorce.
There are also costs of having a second location, however. Emotionally, your primary concern is probably about the well-being of your children, however, it can be challenging for children to adjust to these this new situation.
Furthermore, you might find it difficult to go back and forth especially if you and the other spouse are not able to get along well or if you have disagreements about appropriate parenting style. Many different issues can emerge in the bird nesting agreement and if you do not have a system in place with the other spouse to discuss how these issues will be addressed, you could put yourself at risk for constant arguments and problems with the other spouse. Bird nesting maybe something to consider in the short-term but you need to see how it might work for your family. If you’re unable to come to terms of agreement with your former spouse on anything else, it is unlikely that a bird nesting plan would be most appropriate for you.
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